In fact, the people who decide not to mature, or at least try not to, end up sick. An adult who behaves like a child is fun for a while. However, it can get old.
Growing up is hard. The upside, however, is the experience, knowledge and wisdom it is supposed to bring us. As we get older, it becomes much easier for us to define ourselves, the goals we have and the things we want.
After taking more than six years to graduate from the University of Georgia with a degree in cognitive science, Matt Swann, 27, worked as a waiter in Atlanta. Now he's planning to go to business school. All of them live in Chicago.
The syndrome is not currently considered a psychopathology, given the World Health Organization has not recognized it as a psychological disorder. However, an increasingly larger number of adults are presenting emotionally immature behaviors in Western society. They are unable to grow up and take on adult responsibilities, and even dress up and enjoy themselves as teenagers when they are over 30 years old.
Question: what job requires all the resources you can possibly muster, and yet ultimately requires you to render yourself entirely redundant? The answer, of course, is parenting. It's endlessly demanding; it takes up energy you didn't even realise you possessed; it will give you a level of job satisfaction you're unlikely to experience in anything else you do in your life.
Some people seem to just not want to grow up. What causes this behavior? Why are so many people insisting on behaving like kids and abjectly refusing to mature?
Each week I receive a number of calls from parents who are concerned about their adult children. Most want to know what they can do to help. After they describe the situation, I suggest they continue to pray.
In Peter Pan, the eponymous protagonist occupies a mythical placed called Never-Never Land, where children never grow up. While people with Peter Pan syndrome can and do become adults, they are stubbornly resistant to taking on the responsibilities of adulthood and adopting social norms associated with growing older. Peter Pan syndrome, which is sometimes called failure to launch, is not a clinical diagnosis.
Regardless of your feelings regarding the merits or demerits of millennials and their younger counterparts, being a fledgling adult is harder in some ways than it used to be. Two years ago the Pew Research Center reported that for the first time in years adults ages 18 to 34 were more likely to live with parents than with a romantic partner. For one thing, more young people are waiting later in life to get married, if they do at all.